Flash Dance

Flash Dance

In preparation for this summer, we have been taking more trips to Home Depot’s garden section. (I’ve bought two new Dracaena plants and been gifted a Dracaena Marginata tree from work because I’m a boss 😂. Honestly, I’m just trying to transform my living room into Eden).

There was one trip in which we left home high off an impromptu dance battle to the Coco soundtrack. We ended up doing pirouettes, shimmies, and plies all through the garden department. It was pretty and dope and I wished that I could have had someone documenting the occasion for us.

So, naturally, the next time we went (literally two days later because apparently Home Depot is my new Target), I filmed as much of the experience as I could. When we got home, I set up our new housemate (the plant) and watched the footage. Then a question hit me in the chest: what type of parent do I want to be?

My grandma or mom would NEVER let their children runamuck in the store like I did with My Joy these past few trips. Despite wanting to be the family star, I remember constantly being told by older family members that I was too shy and quiet. Now, the same people will say that My Joy “has so much personality” as if she displays this grandiose trait that she couldn’t possibly have inherited from me. (Actually, she’s three and a princess, so everything she does is a grandiose and exuberant gesture).

It’s no shade to my grandma or mom, because they were doing the best that they could. However, I honestly think the contrast is rooted in the parenting. We tend to stunt our children’s entire being in efforts to prevent them from embarrassing us or to keep them safe in public spaces (read: America) that do not appreciate their presence.

So as I was watching the dance party footage that I did film, I realized I he parent I’m aiming to be:

I want to be the type of parent that develops a child who is confident in her divine right to live fully and express herself freely. I want her to dance in gardens and sing at the table and share the most honest version of herself with the universe. Quite frankly, I want every child I come in contact with to feel like this.

–Sincerely, Tyra

#TheLife #Mine #MyJoy #SincerelyTyra #mommydaughter #relationshipgoals #dance #sing #play #workgoals #youthdevelopment #livefullyalive #expressfreely #reachoneteachone #linkinbio

from Pocket Mantras.

So since December, I have been working on ways to self-motivate. The most effective one I’ve found is, of course, writing (go figure) about the strength that I already possess. Harping on these strengths seemed arrogant at first. But the necessity of seeing what could I handle and what I am capable of accomplishing on paper eventually trumped that initial sentiment. It started small with just a post-it note:

Some of my students have even seen it on my desk and started to ask me to write them pocket momentos as well. Of course, I obliged and wrote them post-it notes on all their talents and gifts.

Think about your triumphs and shortcomings–both internal and those that others have witnessed. Wouldn’t you be more encouraged to work through your flaws or more accepting of your mistakes if you had a quick reminder of how great you are on your desk or inside your phone case?

It’s worked for me. I challenge you to try it. If you cannot think of what to write about yourself, borrow mine! Or start with the fact that you are different and divinely created! Or write down three things that you stayed in the past few days! Basically, write anything about yourself that will make your soul smile when you read it.

Keeping slaying those dreams!

–Sincerely, Tyra 🖤

A few Pocket Momentos from my newest series:

You glow because you are glorious.

You can because you are capable.

You do even when they doubt.

You will because you are worthy.

—Sincerely, Tyra

#SincerelyTyra #SlayTheDream #selfworth #selflove #reminder #motivation #inspiration #glow #worthy #wednesday #poetry #me #selfie #love #dance #sing #community #positivevibes

Dope Woman #31

Sooo being the creative networker and master congratulateur that she is, my Best Fran coined this PR campaign for her birthday month.

It celebrates some of her friends + showcases a few of the things that they have accomplished as Black, Young, and Gifted women.

But this Empowerment Queen, Academic Recruiter, PR Guru, Sister, and Future Event Planner to the Rich & Famous who cares for the kids-all of them-is one of the few people that I actually look up to.

We have had millions of conversations of freedom schools, EPIC events and the politics of Nicki Minaj’s lyrics.

She’s the loudest introvert I know, writes like the lost lovechild of LaurynHill+Nas and is always helping someone.

So I kinda figured she would forget to include herself in the sheer genius that is #31DaysofDopeness.

So I added her myself!

V, I hope all your birthday events were EPIC.

You deserve, sis!

And I hope that we can continue this journey with you highlighting 31 women that the world needs to know!

Wonder what women will she feature in July’s catalogue of dopeness?

-Sincerely, Tyra

#Focused

“The writers will get it.” -Sincerely, Tyra

#sorrynotsorry #focus

#SincerelyTyra #SlayTheDream #saturdayscholars #passion #fruit #blem #sincewayback #icy #Drake #drizzy #drizzydrake #writer #writersofinstagram #authorsofinstagram #bae

A Win for the Neighborhood

Spent some time with these sisters last night supporting an old friend with a new plan! Not only is she a NATIONALLY-known community organizer, but Jeanette Taylor @jbt_40, is a candidate that we can believe in. Her election as Alderman of the 20th Ward would definitely be “A Win for the Neighborhood!” Can’t wait to see how this first step completely transforms our community.

-Sincerely, Tyra

#SincerelyTyra #SlayTheDream #Chicago #2018 #grassroots #work #campaign #2019 #election #formation #neighborhood #southside #vote #community #positive #transformation

Notes from The Saturday Scholar

My Joy and I went out to be #SaturdayScholars to learn from the experiences of a few successful writers. Lucky for us, these phenomenal Black women stopped by our church, Quinn Chapel AME, this morning to share their stories and their journeys to becoming published!

Our discussion featured (pictured from left to right) the author of The Joy of Being A Little Black Boy, Valerie Reynolds; Michelle Duster, the great granddaughter of legendary journalist, publisher and human rights activist Ms. Ida B. Wells, who herself is an author of a shelf full of books and essays about Black history and women’s empowerment; and Quinn’s own, Dr. Geraldine Johnson, a seasoned educator and writer of The “I” Illegal.

I am so appreciative for the panelists dropping knowledge and the Women of Quinn members who helped coordinate this event. For more information about the upcoming events at and the history of Quinn Chapel AME Church, see http://quinnchicago.org.

For more informationon the authors and their books:

Michelle Duster: http://www.mldwrites.com

Dr. Geraldine Johnson: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1456846841/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_SHVpAbH4PDS17

Valerie Reynolds: https://www.joyofbeingablackboy.com and @blackboyjoyroy on Instagram

#SincerelyTyra #SlayTheDream #lifelonglearner

#BooksMakeBetterGifts #happyholidays #MyJoy

Real-time Realizations

Just wanted to take a minute to give thanks. Also, crazy how it’s only 10 days left in 2017, but there’s still time to #SlayTheDream.

7 Things I Do When I’m Sad (Self-Care Post)

So, this list is comprised of actions that have helped me get back to my routine after being laid off; overcome a bad breakup, and grieve a loved one’s death. They all may not work for you, but I encourage you to find what does work to help rebuild your confidence and your happiness.

-Sincerely, Tyra

“7 Post-Breakup Reminders”

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Never let anyone make you forget what you want for yourself.

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Remember to devote time to your passion.

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Sometimes I need healing, too.

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God stored an entire universe in my womb.

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And screenshot all my gifts + everything I lack.

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To create My Joy, the perfect peace who is watching my every move.

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So refuse to let her see your tears for him.